Why being single is the best time of your life to grow!!

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I have been having this same conversation over and over in the past few weeks. It was only necessary I address this issue. I feel like women and men are serving themselves up to people who are not ready, because you are not ready,

What do I need to get ready for?

You are getting ready to know who you are, to find yourself. If you do not know yourself, you are not equipped to be with a real man and therefor you will not recognize the presence of valuable men. Nor will a man recognize the presence of a valuable women.

Too often we jump into new relationships with baggage,  we have not taken the time to release the truths of who we are and work towards a better person. It takes patience to release the baggage relationships can cause. A failed relationship can carry pain, cheating and lies, It can scar you.

Many of you may not agree, but stop and think for a minute and ask yourself these important questions; what growth are you gaining while being single? Can you truly say you know who you are? Do you know how powerful you are? What are you offering to yourself? Are you ready for a relationship? Are you building a foundation whether or not someone is in your life?

Over the years of self discovery I have realize that being single is a time to prepare yourself for being in a successful relationship and truly loving, building self-confidence, self-esteem, self-awareness and developing my relationship with God.

Being single is a time of your life to travel, explore, get to know what you like or dislike, what you want or do not want. It is a time to get to know who you truly are as a person. This is the time you do things in your life you enjoy, meet new people, read, ask questions, and pay close attention to your growth.

Remember although being single may seem like a lonely journey, we have all been there and live through it. This time of your life is a season to explore your gifts, and talents. There are benefits to being single, I am not referring to dating everyone that crosses your path, or sex. I am referring to the blessing of being single and the relationship you can build with "you'.

Any companionship is not good companionship, so do not settle because you are lonely.
You can be single and not be lonely, married and lonely. I have notice many rush into a relationship only to come out of it broken because they did not take the time to get to know who they are first.

Lust is so powerful that it confuses our clarity with love, provides temporary commitment and respect.

The moment you realize you do not respect yourself, you will gain insight into creating a powerful shield for yourself. One of those words written to protect you will be to first respect who you are, your decisions, and your journey.

Please do not run from who you are, get to know your worth as the Kings and queens you are.

I heard a really good quote a while ago that said "single people should date themselves" how profound is that quote! See you can not function in a relationship if you do not know what you like, who you are and if you enjoy yourself.

Time alone allows you to have an outside look at any man and women and ask questions such as: what is suitable for me? what am I willing to accept? is this person right for me? do they see my worth? are they ready to accept my love and the best of me.

All of this goes beyond looks, sex, and temporary fulfillment.

This journey should present you with the opportunity to be self aware, grow confidence, and connect with you.

You deserve the best. Quality over quantity.


I will probably discuss this topic I am sure many more times on this blog. Share your thoughts below.